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Seven Traits that Lead to Success:
Self-Esteem- Do you value yourself? While all of us enjoy being praised on occasion, people with a good sense of self-esteem know their own value and don't always rely on others to tell them they are worthwhile.

Life's Challenges - Are you able to "roll with the punches?" Successful people are able to handle challenges at each stage of life, even though they may be temporarily put off by them.

Flexibility - Are you flexible or do you always have to be right? Successful people are able to make mistakes, accept them as mistakes, and admit them readily.

Realistic Expectations - Do you expect too much of yourself? Of others? While successful people can and do set goals to reach for, they are realistic about what they can accomplish. They aren't afraid to say no to themselves or others when it's clear the expectation is too great.

Acknowledge Feelings - Are you aware of your feelings? Do you allow yourself to experience them without judging them as good or bad? We all have feelings that may sometimes seem irrational, but successful people are able to acknowledge them and move on instead of denying their existence.

Accept Responsibility - Can you accept responsibility for both what you do and the choices you make? While it's human nature to make excuses once in a while, successful people are able to accept responsibility for themselves and their actions. At the same time, they refrain from denying responsibility or blaming others.

Ask For Help - Can you ask for help? Sometimes it's hard for us to admit that we can't solve a problem ourselves, but successful people ask for and get help if they need it. That's how they struggle and learn to be successful.

Procrastination

Procrastination refers to the avoidance of a specific task or work that needs to be accomplished. But this technical explanation doesn't begin to capture the emotions triggered by the word. For most of us, the word "procrastination" reminds us of past experiences where we have felt guilty, lazy, inadequate, anxious, or some combination of these. It also implies a value judgement. If you procrastinate, you are bad, and as such, you lack worth as a person.

Procrastination and Its Causes

It order to understand and solve your procrastination problems, you must carefully analyze those situations where your work is not being completed. First, determine whether the cause is poor time management. If so, you will need to learn and develop time management skills. If, however, you know how to manage your time but don't make use of those skills, you may have a more serious problem. Many individuals cite the following reasons for avoiding work:

LACK OF RELEVANCE - If something is neither relevant nor meaningful to you personally, it may be difficult to get motivated even to begin.

ACCEPTANCE OF ANOTHER'S GOALS - If a project has been imposed or assigned to you and it is not consistent with your own interests, you may be reluctant to spend the necessary time to see it to conclusion.

PERFECTIONISM - Having unreachable standards will discourage you from pursuing a task. Remember that perfection is unattainable.

EVALUATION ANXIETY - Since others' responses to your work are not under your direct control, overvaluing these responses can create the kind of anxiety that will interfere with work getting accomplished.

AMBIGUITY - If you are uncertain what is expected of you, it may be difficult to get started.

FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN - If you are venturing into a new realm or field, you don't have any way of knowing how well you'll do. Such an uncertain outcome may inhibit your desire to begin.

INABILITY TO HANDLE THE TASK - If, through lack of training, skill, or ability you feel that you lack the personal resources to do the job, you may avoid it completely.

Procrastination Takes Many Forms

Once you have surmounted the emotional block by acknowledging your procrastination (guilt, anxiety, or feelings of inadequacy), and after you have analyzed the underlying causes, you need to clearly specify how you procrastinate. Consider the following examples:

Do you act as though if you ignore a task, it will go away? The mid-term exam in your chemistry class is not likely to vaporize, no matter how much you ignore it.
Do you underestimate the work involved in the task, or overestimate your abilities and resources in relationship to the task? Do you tell yourself that you grasp concepts so easily that you need only spend one hour on the physics problems, which would normally take you six?
Do you deceive yourself by substituting one worthy activity for another? Suppose you clean your dorm room instead of writing your term paper. Valuing a clean room is fine, but if that value only becomes important when there is a paper due, then you're procrastinating.
Do you deceive yourself into believing that a mediocre performance or lesser standards are acceptable? For example, if you talk yourself into believing that a 2.3 GPA will still get you into the medical school of your choice, you may be avoiding the decision to work harder to improve your grade point average and thus may have to alter your career plans. This form of avoidance can prevent you from consciously making choices about important goals in your life.
Do you believe that repeated "minor" delays are harmless? An example is putting off writing your paper so you can watch five minutes of your favorite television program. If you don't return to writing the paper after five minutes have elapsed, you may stay tuned to the television for the entire evening, with no work being done on the paper.
Do you dramatize a commitment to a task rather than actually doing it? An example is taking your books on vacation but never opening them, or perhaps even declining invitations for pleasurable events, but still not pursuing the work at hand nor getting needed relaxation. This way you stay in a constant state of unproductive readiness to work, without ever working.
Do you persevere on only one portion of a task? An example is writing and rewriting the introductory paragraph of the paper but not dealing with the body and the conclusion. The introductory paragraph is important, but not at the expense of the entire project.
Do you become paralyzed in deciding between alternative choices? An example involves spending so much time deciding between two term paper topics that you don't have sufficient time to write the paper.

What to Do about Procrastination

If you can visualize yourself in one or more of these situations, you may be ready to overcome your problems of avoidance or procrastination. The following is a list of steps that may help you deal with your avoidance problems:

Extract from the previous examples those principles that apply to you. Write them down.
Make honest decisions about your work. If you wish to spend only a minimal amount of effort or time on a particular task, admit it. Do not allow guilt feelings to interfere with your realization of this fact. Weigh the consequences of various amounts of investment in a project and find the optimal return for your investment. This step exposes intentional reasons for avoiding work. If you have been unintentionally avoiding work, admit to yourself that you do want to achieve certain goals and accept the responsibilities involved in meeting those goals.
Work to acquire an adequate understanding of what is necessary to accomplish a task within a given time frame.
Distinguish between activities that dramatize your sense of commitment and those that will help you accomplish the task. Devote only that amount of time that is appropriate for each part of a task. Develop an overview of the entire project and visualize the steps that are needed to reach completion.

Effective Planning

The larger and more involved the project, the more difficult it is to plan effectively to carry it out. The following steps may be helpful:

Segment the task. The entire job may seem impossible, but smaller segments may seem more manageable. Divide the task into small steps.
Distribute the small steps reasonably within the given time frame. "Reasonably" is the key word. You must allot sufficient time for each step. Do not fool yourself by believing you can do more than is humanly possible.
Realize that humans periodically need variety and relaxation. Intersperse rewards, relaxation, and gratification for work completed. This will help you feel less resentful of the task and the work that still needs to be done.
Monitor your progress on the small steps. Watch for the pitfalls discussed earlier. Assess problems when they arise and do something about them quickly. Keep track of segments and how they fit together to form the whole picture. Reassess time commitments as necessary.
Be reasonable in your expectations of yourself. Perfectionist expectations may cause you to rebel or may sabotage your progress.

Stress

What is Stress?
Stress is the "wear and tear" our bodies experience as we adjust to our continually changing environment. It has physical and emotional effects on us and can create positive or negative feelings. As a positive influence, stress can help compel us to action. It can result in a new awareness and an exciting new perspective. As a negative influence, it can result in feelings of distrust, rejection, anger, and depression, which, in turn, can lead to health problems such as headaches, upset stomach, rashes, insomnia, ulcers, high blood pressure, heart disease, and stroke. The death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, a heavy academic schedule or all the pressures of college life taken collectively can cause us to experience stress as we readjust our lives. In adjusting to these circumstances, stress will help or hinder us depending on how we react to it.

How Can I Eliminate Stress from My Life?
As we have seen, positive stress adds anticipation and excitement to life, and we all thrive under a certain amount of stress. Deadlines, competitions, confrontations, and even our frustrations and sorrows add depth and enrichment to our lives. Our goal is not to eliminate stress, but to learn how to manage it and how to use it to help us. Insufficient stress acts as a depressant and may leave us feeling bored or dejected. On the other hand, excessive stress may leave us feeling "tied up in knots." What we need to do is find the optimal level of stress that will individually motivate but not overwhelm us.

How Can I Tell What is Optimal Stress For Me?
There is no single level of stress that is optimal for all people. We are all individual creatures with unique requirements. As such, what is distressing to one may be a joy to another. Even when we agree that a particular event is distressing, we are likely to differ in our physiological and psychological responses to it.

The person who loves to arbitrate disputes and moves from job site to job site would be stressed in a job which was stable and routine, whereas the person who thrives under stable conditions would very likely be stressed on a job where duties were highly varied. Also, our personal stress requirements and the amount that we can tolerate before we become distressed changes with our ages.

It has been found that most illness is related to unrelieved stress. If you are experiencing stress symptoms, you have gone beyond your optimal stress level. You need to reduce the stress in your life and/or improve your ability to manage it.